When it comes to motivation, we’ve all heard “prove them wrong!” While thinking in these terms can be a powerful motivator, I challenge you to try thinking differently. Prove them right!
What is it that motivates us to do our best and what makes us do those things when we don’t want to? Is it out of obligation — because we don’t want to let anyone down? We don’t want to disappoint our family and friends? Hopefully, it does come from within as something that takes hold of your heart and just drives you to finish.
Sometimes, though, we’re driven by being able to prove people wrong. We’re happy to show you — smugly — that we can do what we set out to do, with or without your approval or faith. This has the potential to be a super unhealthy mindset, with the primary focus on naysayers and on being told: “I don’t think you can…”
I no longer want to focus on or direct any energy towards negativity like this. Not only was I taking on their negativity, but I was actively projecting it back toward them with my smug ideas of grandeur.
Here’s what I propose, that we focus on the positive. We all have friends and family that kindly encourage us through our more challenging times in life. They remind us of our strengths and offer words of wisdom to try to help us through those darker phases. Do we listen to what they’re saying? I know that I usually shrug it off, and that’s if I hear it at all. Furthermore, I can’t think of a moment that I believed or took action based on a compliment. My motivation always came from what someone told me I couldn’t do or worse, what I told myself I couldn’t do.
Instead, I’m going to try to focus on the positive side of things. The fact that my friends and family believe that I am creative and talented, that I am a visionary, that my feelings and passions are legitimate because, just like everyone one of you, I was put on this earth to do something, and it might as well be to shine!
Look within yourself to all the times someone complimented your cadence, your body of work, or your magnetism. They were not pulling your chain. You have real value. They see it; I see it. Prove them right.